Being emotionally codependent means that you unconsciously make choices based on other people’s needs and feelings rather than your own. It also means that you listen to others’ opinions and thoughts and allow them to influence your own thinking and decisions.

It can be described as being an unconscious victim of your environment. The reason may be that you are stuck in unhealthy relationships where you are driven by guilt or fear. If you suppress your own emotions for long enough, you eventually lose contact with them. This can lead to emotional emptiness and a lack of energy. You lose yourself and your connection to who you are.

Emotional codependency is when you consciously or unconsciously make choices based on others before yourself. It means you sense other people’s emotions before your own, and you listen to and take into account other people’s needs before your own needs.

“It is impossible to feel closeness if you have no senseof self

Through therapy, one can work with different methods to free oneself from guilt and shame and thereby live a life of full potential. This involves becoming free, defining one’s own truths, and living according to one’s own will.

If you recognize yourself in most of the statements below, you are likely emotionally codependent.

• My energy goes into pleasing others and defending them.
• I have difficulty setting boundaries out of fear of hurting others.
• I adapt to other people´s needs.
• I am afraid to say what I think or to be true to myself.
• I am afraid of being alone and of being abandoned.
• I love others more than myself.
• The only way to fill my inner emptiness is to be loved and supported by someone else.
• My self-esteem is strengthened by solving other people’s problems and relieving their pain.
• I put my own hobbies and interests aside and instead share someone else’s interests.
• I don’t know how I feel, but I “sense” how you feel.
• I don’t know what I want, so I ask others what they want.
• By giving, I feel safe in the relationship.
• My quality of life depends on your quality of life.