{"id":1731,"date":"2013-03-14T17:11:36","date_gmt":"2013-03-14T17:11:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.malinrinman.se\/?page_id=1731"},"modified":"2026-05-18T15:55:14","modified_gmt":"2026-05-18T15:55:14","slug":"sjalvkansla","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.malinrinman.se\/en\/sjalvkansla\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-esteem and self-confidence"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-page\" data-elementor-id=\"1731\" class=\"elementor elementor-1731\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-65253eaa elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default default-style\" data-id=\"65253eaa\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;rt_color_sets&quot;:&quot;default-style&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-71a9ab9\" data-id=\"71a9ab9\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-46c3427 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"46c3427\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-039532f elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default default-style\" data-id=\"039532f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;rt_color_sets&quot;:&quot;default-style&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-c5ef3fc\" data-id=\"c5ef3fc\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2ebb2d71 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2ebb2d71\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Self-esteem<\/b><\/span> can be described as the fundamental attitude we have toward ourselves. According to the dictionary, self-esteem means \u201can awareness of one\u2019s own worth as a person.\u201d The concept of self-esteem includes dimensions of how satisfied, proud, and accepting we are of ourselves and who we are. Feeling loved, seen, and accepted for who you are is considered important for developing healthy self-esteem. Many different types of difficulties often stem from having a poor relationship with oneself. This, in turn, can lead to low self-esteem and a sense of \u201closing oneself.\u201d<\/p><p><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Self-confidence<\/b><\/span>\u00a0is a closely related term. However, self-confidence refers more to our belief in our ability to perform in different areas of life. For example, you may have strong self-confidence regarding your work situation or your ability to handle practical tasks, while feeling less confident when it comes to approaching new people, dancing, or socializing.<\/p><blockquote><p>\u201cHealthy self-esteem functions as an immune system for the soul, providing resilience, strength, and the ability to recover.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #800000;\">Self-esteem can be defined as the sum of the following three subcategories:<\/span><\/strong><\/p><ul><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><b>Self-confidence<\/b><\/span> focuses on our perception of ourselves in terms of our ability to accomplish and perform tasks.<\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><b>Self-image<\/b><\/span> reflects how you value your own self-worth.<\/li><li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><b>Self-awareness<\/b><\/span>\u00a0is the ability to be aware of one\u2019s own consciousness. It is the understanding that you are a unique individual, separate from other people and from the surrounding world.<\/li><\/ul><p>Healthy self-esteem is established during childhood and adolescence. Feeling loved, seen, and accepted for who you are by important people in your life is considered essential for developing healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem provides the inner security we need in order to remain steady when life becomes challenging. It also functions as an immune system for the soul, offering resilience, strength, and the ability to recover.<\/p><p><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>Common Problems Associated with Low Self-Esteem<\/b><\/span><\/p><p>The risks associated with low self-esteem include becoming more vulnerable to depression, worry, and anxiety. It can also place strain on relationships, either by making a person overly dependent on others and their approval, or overly self-focused and emotionally distant in the hope that others will not discover how \u201cinadequate\u201d they feel.<\/p><p>With low self-esteem, even the slightest hint of criticism or questioning can make a person \u201cfall apart.\u201d A person with low self-esteem becomes highly vulnerable to other people\u2019s opinions and judgments. They do not see their own worth, and instead take others\u2019 projections about them as truth. Neutral information from the environment is often interpreted as negative. Positive signals from others are frequently missed entirely, because they do not match the person\u2019s own view of themselves and are therefore ignored or dismissed.<\/p><p>Often, positive things and events in our lives are attributed to others, while we take responsibility for \u2014 and feel guilt over \u2014 the negative things that happen. We do not see our own value, but instead look outward to others rather than inward to ourselves. This can easily become a self-reinforcing vicious cycle that affects our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.<\/p><p><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>The path to Self-Esteem<\/b><\/span><\/p><p>To find inner security, one may need support along the way. It is easy to become paralyzed into inaction because there is nowhere to draw strength from. There are no exact methods for increasing self-esteem. Below, I present some answers from clients who were asked what they considered most important in the process of developing greater self-esteem.<\/p><p><i>\u201cI have needed to feel that I am allowed to exist.\u201d\n\u201cI have learned that it is okay to be the way I am.\u201d\n\u201cIt has largely been about allowing my emotions. Allowing my emotions is the same as allowing myself.\u201d\n\u201cI have been met with understanding, experienced acceptance, and been reassured again and again that it is okay to be me and that I am good enough.\u201d\n\u201cTo forgive myself!\u201d\n\u201cTo work through my feelings of self-hatred. To dare to feel them, process them, and let them out!\u201d<\/i><\/p><p>To develop healthy self-esteem, you need to free yourself from feelings such as shame and guilt. It is about forgiving and accepting yourself. The path to healthy self-esteem involves building and investing in self-love. It means treating yourself as if you were someone you actually care about. Many people treat themselves poorly.<\/p><p>Choose to do what you truly want, rather than performing to impress others. Follow your own dreams and desires. Compare yourself with yourself \u2014 while still allowing yourself to be inspired by others. Stop feeling inferior just because someone else happens to be slightly better than you at something. Start affirming yourself and practice noticing your positive qualities, such as being courageous, generous, kind, and caring.<\/p><p>The path to healthy self-esteem is about you learning to accept, value, and love yourself. That love must come from within you, not from anyone else.<\/p><p><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><b>If you answer yes to most of the questions below, you may have a need to improve your self-esteem.<\/b><\/span><\/p><ul><li>Do you avoid or hesitate to show your emotions so that others won\u2019t think badly of you?<\/li><li>Do you find it important that most people like you?<\/li><li>Do you often think about what other people are thinking of you?<\/li><li>Do you believe you will be less liked if you don\u2019t step in and help others?<\/li><li>Do you have a harsh, negative inner dialogue with yourself?<\/li><li>Is your worth determined by how others judge and treat you? For example, do you only appreciate yourself when others appreciate you as a person?<\/li><li>Do you avoid saying things before you know what others think?<\/li><li>Do you find it difficult to accept other people\u2019s advice or criticism?<\/li><li>Is it important to you to live up to other people\u2019s expectations?<\/li><\/ul><blockquote><p>\u201cOnly when you accept your weakest and most helpless self can you become whole and strong.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote><p><em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-258736e\" data-id=\"258736e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6e9c39f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6e9c39f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"box box-shadow box_layout column_class widget widget_contact_info\"><div class=\"featured\"><div class=\"title\"><h5><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Contact<\/span><\/h5><\/div><ul class=\"contact_list\"><li class=\"phone\"><a href=\"tel:0706254168\">0706-25 41 68<\/a><\/li><li class=\"mail\"><a href=\"https:\/\/web.archive.org\/web\/20180331103817\/mailto:malin@malinrinman.se\">malin@malinrinman.se<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><div class=\"box box-shadow box_layout column_class widget widget_rt_products\"><div class=\"featured\"><div class=\"products-row\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-92d16f3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"92d16f3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"312\" height=\"749\" src=\"https:\/\/www.malinrinman.se\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/sidebar_blomma.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-1865\" alt=\"Samtalsterapeut, Samtalsterapi\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sj\u00e4lvk\u00e4nsla och Sj\u00e4lvf\u00f6rtroende Sj\u00e4lvk\u00e4nsla kan beskrivas som den grundinst\u00e4llning vi har till oss sj\u00e4lva. 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